Here you will find a free weekly e-course delivering 52 easy and safe ways to discover the little joys of life as you take the next step toward healing the trauma of childhood sexual abuse.
How do you have joy in your life when you have been abused and betrayed from a very young age?
You need to learn how to give yourself what you did not receive early on.
When you have been sexually abused and betrayed your innocence along with your child like sense of joy is taken away as well. For many survivors the feeling of joy has never been experienced..
I know only too well how foreign it is to hear the word joy, let alone experience it.
Not only did I have to learn what joy was and how to feel it, I needed to learn how to:
• give to myself what I did not receive early on
• to soothe and comfort myself
Not knowing how to do this left me feeling angry, lost and confused. It was like hearing a foreign language for the first time...my eyes rolled back in my head and I felt overwhelmed!
You see, I found myself at the age of 37.....still waiting..... waiting.......and waiting........for my parents to teach me about joy.
I realised the cold, hard face of reality was, that learning about joy, was never going to come from my father who abused me or my mother who was physically present but emotionally absent all of my life because no one taught them about joy either. I was desperate to heal as well as to uncover and experience even a smidgen of joy in my life!
After a relentless search I stumbled upon an amazing truth............... that the joy I was seeking could only come from me!!! That it was inside me waiting to be uncovered. Gosh what a shock that was!
I realised that I had to learn the invaluable skill of self-care if I was to experience any joy in my life. I then set upon a journey - armed with my old friend "hope" and the dogged determination to connect with this stranger called "joy"!
Uh...oh!!....I soon uncovered that I was suffering from “the disease to please” (meeting everyone else’s needs before my own).
As I did, you too will come to realise that self-care is an important part of the healing process and is vital to your emotional health. However practicing self-care is a challenge for many people and it can be especially difficult for survivors of childhood sexual abuse because we are so desperate for love and acceptance.
Healing starts here…
On your healing journey it is vitally important to learn how to take care of yourself. There are daily routines that you need to do which include caring for your physical (rest, nourishing food, exercise), emotional, mental and spiritual needs.
Healing from childhood sexual abuse is an arduous and painful journey. You must take care of yourself on all levels, ensuring that you receive the physical, emotional, mental and spiritual nourishment. This can be difficult as you are often conditioned to put yourselves last and for most survivors there is a dangerous preoccupation to keep ‘doing’ rather than allowing yourself to just ‘be’.
As you put one foot in front of the other each day you need to allow yourself time for rejuvenation on all levels.
Acts of self-care are the ways we rejuvenate ourselves.
Skipping this step in the healing process can leave you feeling confused, tired, and hungry, stressed, with chronic physical aliments and consequentially, you may also feel more fragile.
For example, think about a time when you were feeling overwhelmed. It could be because of family, work or finances. Did you find that your response was more irritable and snappy than you would like it to be? Or perhaps you burst into tears for no apparent reason? This is what happens when you fail to take care of yourself.
Your number one priority is to take care of yourself first.
Once you begin to practice these acts of self-care, you will begin to have increased energy levels, you will be able to handle challenges without ending up overwhelmed, and you will experience joy. All of this leads to a more balanced life.
When you continue to take care of yourself in a loving way you end up with a high level of self-esteem and all of your relationships become much healthier. Once established self-care is one of the most enjoyable and fun aspects of life. It is a guaranteed way to discover the joy of life.
This e-course will reveal to you on a weekly basis how to discover the little joys of life.
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• A weekly theme
• One easy and safe care exercise to relieve the torment and help you through the day to day healing challenges
• A caring quote to give you one encouraging concept to focus on each week
• Helpful resources that will allow you access to further life-affirming information that may interest you based upon the weekly topic
Once a month you will also receive my recommended Care Book of the Month.
• This is my recommended read for the month and will be a book that helped me or one of my clients gain the knowledge needed to move through the day to day challenges of healing the emotional pain and suffering that has occurred over a long period of time.
You will also receive an invitation to join the online community support forum. A safe place where you can connect with other survivors, discover inspiration, additional resources and effective ways to sustain your daily Joy Factor! Receive help with any of the 52 free Care Notes. I pop in there everyday to sprinkle caring and joy around and provide additional resources!
E-course valued at $97.00.
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These tips may seem too easy at first glance, but they are designed so you can’t fail.
• I found during my healing process that I could only take one small step at a time otherwise I would end up feeling overwhelmed. This e-course delivers one small way you can manage easily and over time you will end up with 52 small ways that will make a BIG difference in your life.
People ask me why I would give away such valuable information for free.
Well it’s because I now have an old friend called joy in my life! I have sooo much joy that it just keeps on bubbling to the surface ....what a difference it has made in my life! I know that these acts of self-care work and are fail proof....that's how I eventually connected with my old friend joy!
I also understand how uncomfortable and guilty you may feel spending time on yourself and how crucial caring for our own needs is in the recovery process.
Heck initially I felt so dazed and confused because I didn’t know where or how to begin to take care of myself! Remember, I was an expert at looking after other people! Not to mention feeling guilty spending time on myself.
You have suffered enough and now it’s time to give yourself these weekly acts of self-care that will gently guide you on where and how to begin to discover the little joys in life.
Like any skill, it takes practice. With weekly practice the guilt will vanish and you will become more comfortable spending a few minutes each day caring for yourself.
Before too long, you will be feeling quite confident and at ease with caring for your own needs and you will no longer be a stranger to the little joys of life!
If you would like to see an example of a Care-Note before you sign up, please click here.
Then, if you would like to join my safe and easy program, simply enter your first name and email address in the box on the right to receive your free weekly Care Notes valued at $97.00.
What a wonderful way to be reminded of nurturing and caring for yourself and making joy a priority in your life!
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End the confusion and let the healing begin…
Simply enter your first name and email address in the box on the right to receive your free weekly Care Notes e-course. You will then receive a confirmation email and once you confirm your subscription your first Care Note will arrive in your inbox the following day.
I wish you ever growing joy and support!
Author | Mentor for Growing Joy!
Helping survivors of childhood sexual abuse transform and rebuild their lives!
[A mentor is someone who allows you to see the hope inside yourself.]
